Why breakups are necessary:
Breakups are a common occurrence, happening all around the world every day for various reasons. While the word “breakup” is often associated with the concept of romantic relationships, it can happen in other relationships as well, including friends and family.
In this post, we are specifically discussing “breakups in friendships”. Here, we will focus on friendship breakups, in which the pain can be as acute as it is in romantic ones. Friends are often our closest confidantes and supporters and losing them can feel like a major loss.
I call it a “surprise breakup” because this term is often reserved for romantic relationships. When a friendship ends suddenly and without explanation, it can be jarring and difficult to process.
We may try to explain it by saying things like, “we lost touch”, "we got busy”, “our lives changed”.
But everyone reading this, do you agree with these at all? Sure, these are all valid reasons, however, the important thing to remember is that friendships can end without us even realizing it.
Reasons for friends breaking up:
Some of the common reasons include the following:
-Amicable separation: This is when friends mutually agree that it is time to end their friendship.
-Friendship drift: This is when friends gradually drift apart over time, without any clear reason.
-Toxic friendship: This is when a friendship is harmful or destructive to one or both people involved.
Toxic Friendship:
It is understandable from the term itself that these “friends” are toxic. They cause you stress and anxiety. They do not have any positive influence or contribution in your life.
They just exhaust you. And they are often one-sided friendships.
Let us find out the signs which hints at the friendship being one-sided and toxic.
You are the one who is always making efforts to keep in touch.
You sense lack of concern, care and empathy from your friend.
You always end up chasing them.
You feel judged in everything you do in life.
You always feel ' taken for granted'.
You feel isolated.
You feel emotionally exhausted. (and this is one of the most important reasons you should call it quits asap, i.e., "break up")
When you realize you share the feelings mentioned above, it is high time you break up from your friend. If you overlook these signs thinking the situation might improve, it only leads to resentment and toxicity in life. Obviously, no one needs that.
You do not need to be afraid to cut toxic people out of your life, even if they are your friends. Toxic people can have a negative impact on your mental and emotional health, and they can sabotage your goals and dreams. If you are in a toxic friendship, it is important to take care of yourself and remove yourself from the situation.
Ending a Toxic friendship:
If you are thinking about ending a toxic friendship, you may be wondering how to go about it. The best way to do it is to have a clear and open conversation with your friend. Be polite and gentle but be honest about why you are ending the friendship.
Do not worry, it won't affect them as much as it did affect you, because they may not have been invested in the friendship in the same way that you were. Sad, but true!
Here, one thing that must be kept in mind is to never ghost your friend. It does no good to anyone. The rule to remember here is to speak, explain and then leave.
And trust me, soon you will feel much lighter and liberated because you have got rid of all the dead weight you have been carrying all along. Ending a toxic friendship can be a difficult process, but it is ultimately worth it for your mental and emotional health.
Also, not surprisingly, you will get your validation the moment you notice, the so-called toxic friend of yours, never tries to reconcile or get back to you ever, and they lead their lives as if nothing happened.
That's exactly the moment you register, you have been nurturing the dead plants and say 'cheers' to yourself that you have got rid of them.
It will soon be clear to you that you have made the right decision of ending the friendship for your mental health.
Be careful.Take care.
Sucheta
Disclaimer: I am not an expert or a professional in the field of mental health. This writing is based solely on my experience and observation, and it is not intended to be a substitute for professional advice. If you need help with mental health issues, please contact a qualified professional.
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