Are we aware of depression?
As I mentioned in my previous post, we have come a long way in becoming aware of depression, however, there is still a long way to go in terms of how depression is perceived and treated.
Unfortunately, I know of real life stories, where the people have been taken to a wrong place, mocked at, overlooked, or simply dismissed.
It is important to avoid misuse of the word ‘depression’, as discussed earlier. It is equally crucial to not overlook the genuine cases of depression.
You will be appalled to learn that many people in our society still have a lot of apathy, indifference and ignorance about depression.
Below are some real-life stories.
As a young girl, I had just graduated from high school, was excited to start college in a big city. I was the topper of my school. I had always dreamed of living on my own and having the freedom to explore new things. However, my plans were suddenly put on hold when I was unable to get into my dream college. I was devastated and felt like my whole world had been turned upside down.
I started to withdraw from my friends and family. I would spend all day in my room, crying and feeling sorry for myself. I didn’t want to do anything or go anywhere. My parents were worried about me and didn’t know what to do. They took me to see, (wait for it), an astrologer, who gave me some stones to wear, which according to their belief, would work. After a few months, I did manage to come out of this, but by God’s grace. (not astrological stones!)
One afternoon, a man in his mid-30s was feeling down. He felt like nobody liked him, no one respected him, and he didn’t have a proper or steady job. He started crying and called his parents for help. They were taking an afternoon nap, but they came to see what was wrong. The man’s father listened to his son’s problem and then said, "Everything will be alright. You just disturbed my sleep". Can you just imagine?
A woman, in an office, was upset about some life events. It was clear that she was troubled, as her face was gloomy. A colleague passed by, and remarked "Pet kharab hai kya?” (translates to "Do you have an upset stomach?") with a smirk!
A girl was sharing with one of her friends that she sometimes feels she might take some extreme step. And the remark she got was, "It does not matter, life is unpredictable, we can go any moment!" Read it again! Does it sound right? Is she not making her more hopeless?
How to be aware of signs of depression:
As I mentioned, we have made progress, but there is still a long way to go. Depression Awareness Month is observed in October. The purpose is to create more awareness and understanding of depression.
It helps to encourage people to seek help if they are struggling.
However, this alone is not enough! We need to be mindful of how we treat others and watch for any changes in the behavior of our loved ones.
We often miss subtle signs, even when we live with or meet others everyday. Sometimes we are not careful enough; while at other times, we simply do not pay attention.
In the above mentioned incidents, the signs and symptoms were not taken seriously. Rather, they were dismissed to a large extent. This is what we need to change.
How to help someone showing signs of depression:
The most important thing to do is to listen actively and not be outright dismissive.
Some of the things one can do are listed below:
Start a conversation.
Listen with attention.
Help them sincerely.
Encourage them to seek help.
Motivate them to practice self-care.
Be patient with them.
Not be judgemental and jump to conclusions.
It is very important to check in periodically.
Let’s be polite, kind and offer help whenever we can, in whichever capacity possible.
A gentle reminder to be cautious and diligent of the people around you.
Take care!
Sucheta
Disclaimer: I am not an expert or a professional in the field of mental health. This writing is based solely on my experience and observation, and it is not intended to be a substitute for professional advice. If you need help with mental health issues, please contact a qualified professional.
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