Ghosting
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Everyone is aware of ghosting. Ghosting has become so commonplace that we often overlook its negative consequences. Most of us have ghosted or been ghosted, and we rarely give it much thought.
For some, it’s become a way of life. But for others, ghosting can be a painful and damaging experience.
Imagine: when we give an interview and wait for the next call, how frustrated and anxious we get. The wait feels endless and we are left to make our own assumptions and conclusions. It’s tough.
Now think, how much more upsetting and frustrating it is when this happens in our everyday lives, with people we interact with frequently, especially those we care about or love deeply.
Many people have experienced the situation where friends or partners abruptly cease all communication, leaving them confused, anxious, and stressed, while also testing their patience.
As time passes, panic sets in, leading to desperate attempts to reach out to the person who ghosted them. Ironically, the more they pursue, the more it weighs on their mind.
We endure prolonged periods of waiting until it takes a toll on our well-being. This cycle repeats itself, often consuming a significant amount of time without us even noticing.
It leads me to some questions.
WHY? IS IT NECESSARY AT ALL?
Why can't we be honest and direct, and openly mention the need to end the communication for whatever reason? Why can't we be forthright?
Sorry to inform you, but experts say that ghosting is a cowardly act that does not solve any problems. It is not an answer to anything.
How ghosting works:
Ghosting is commonly employed as a means to evade conflicts, drama, arguments, and awkwardness, although the truth is, it often complicates situations even more.
We often assume that the other person wouldn't understand or care about our perspective, but have we ever really tried to have a conversation where both the parties get a chance to clear the confusions?
Ghosting is always seen as an easy way out by the ghoster. They have certain underlying psychological issues which forces them to avoid any sort of confrontation. It may actually be a reflection of them and their problems.
Psychological Impact of Ghosting:
Ghosting can have a significant psychological impact on the person who is being ghosted.
It can affect the person in more ways than one:
It brings the person into panic mode.
It causes self-esteem issues. The ghosted individual starts questioning one’s worth and tries relentlessly to find one’s fault (even if there isn’t any).
It creates a huge amount of anxiety.
It leads to mistrust. The person finds it hard to trust anyone.
It might lead to depression, especially if the ghosting episode continues for a significant amount of time.
WE MUST TRY TO GET RID OF THIS HABIT AS SOON AS POSSIBLE!
DO NOT UNDERESTIMATE THE POWER OF COMMUNICATION!
I firmly believe that if we approach the situation with gentleness and kindness, we can effectively convey our message, ultimately leading to a peaceful resolution that aligns with our desired outcome.
Talk it out. It will save you embarrassment. It will save your precious time and energy. Trust me!
Relationships in today’s modern world are getting increasingly complex, day by day. There are different types of issues, which we are not even aware of. Ghosting is one such issue, with various forms that can be hurtful and confusing.
The types of ghosting are-
The ruthless ghoster- who cut you off mercilessly.
The lurker- who leaves hints around that they could still be keen.
The slow burn- who cuts you off gradually.
Coping with being ghosted:
There is no doubt that ghosting is a very inhuman behavior. Since we cannot control how others behave, we have to deal with being ghosted in a calm and sensible manner.
· We should remind ourselves that we are valuable and are worthy of better people and deserve better treatment.
· We should focus on people who actually care about us.
· We have to accept that there may be no explanation from the other person, however much we try. We should stop wasting time waiting.
. We should practice self-care and build our resilience.
The moment we get past this, we are sure to feel free and liberated. Trust me!
P.S. - Sometimes we encounter toxic people who we need to get rid of. Despite being fully aware of your lack of interest, these individuals refuse to budge or make any changes. Is ghosting them legit? I am not sure about this. Help me with your opinion, readers!
Take care, lovely people!
Sucheta
Disclaimer: I am not an expert or a professional in the field of mental health. This writing is based solely on my experience and observation, and it is not intended to be a substitute for professional advice. If you need help with mental health issues, please contact a qualified professional.
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