Divorce scene in India

 Lowest Divorce Rate in India

As I mentioned in my previous post, the divorce rate in India is the lowest at 1%. Is this something to rejoice in? The answer is NO. Statistics do not always show the real picture.

India is a country where traditions, rituals, and customs still matter, and they often take precedence over the individual’s wellbeing. It is sad, but true.

The idea that India’s low divorce rate is something to be celebrated overlooks the societal pressures and cultural norms that prevent people from breaking up an unhappy marriage.

Divorce is still looked down upon in India. Divorcees have a tough time in society and it is tougher for women. 

Why India has the lowest divorce rate:

One of the most noteworthy things here is, in India, the divorce is particularly a challenging journey, because the legal framework varies from one religion to another.

Different religions are governed by different acts

Now, let us look at the probable reasons as to why the reality is so different than what is found in the books:

1. Traditions - India is still very tradition and culture-oriented. Getting divorced is frowned upon in Indian society. Unless the situation is grave and almost a threat to daily life, couples do not opt for it.

 

2. Affordability - It is a significant factor when considering divorce. The process itself, as well as the financial obligations such as alimony and other expenses, can be quite expensive.

Moreover, the process is time-consuming and emotionally draining. Unless the couple has sufficient financial resources, it becomes extremely challenging to even contemplate divorce.

3. Financial Dependence - In the majority of cases in India, there exists a significant dependency on one another for basic necessities and more. As a result, individuals often find themselves compelled to endure various toxic situations in order to ensure their survival.

 

4. Limited Options - Remarriage is not widely embraced in Indian culture, let alone considering marriage after a divorce. The status of both families is often called into question, and the label of being a "divorcee" is generally viewed unfavorably.

 

5. Children - When a couple has a child or children, adjustment becomes the sole option. This is because the presence of a child further complicates the divorce process, particularly when it comes to determining custody agreements.
   
   

6. Lack of Awareness - There is a significant lack of knowledge and awareness regarding the appropriate and sensible ways to address domestic issues. People are often unaware of the grounds on which to file for divorce.

Unfortunately, many situations escalate unnecessarily due to one party's dominance over the other. Ego becomes a factor, and the understanding of what is right and wrong becomes blurred. As a result, even though the couple may be unhappy, they continue to persist in their unhappiness.

 

7. Societal Pressure - Society exerts a significant influence on marriages, shaping the rules and rituals associated with them. The broader society automatically passes judgment on whatever transpires within a marriage between the couple.

                            

                                             

Love Marriage vs Arranged Marriage: The jury is still out.

There is always this ongoing debate as to which one is better or which one is more successful. According to me, the longevity of marriage depends on various factors, and most importantly on the two people involved in it.

There are no hard and fast rules or tricks, which when followed will lead to successful and long lasting companionship. It is always a work-in-progress journey. 

Also, there is no one-size-fits-all approach to a happy and lasting marriage. Each union or each marriage is a unique journey which is influenced by a myriad of factors.

We tend to have this wrong notion that love marriages are better than arranged marriages, and they are easier and are less prone to problems. This is far from the truth. 

Every marriage needs work and a different level of commitment. In fact, recent statistics show that love marriages are the leading cause of most divorces in India.

Behind closed doors: The harsh reality of Indian Marriages

Take a moment to observe your surroundings. You will witness individuals enduring senseless actions, toxic habits, unhealthy dynamics, emotional abuse, disrespect, family disputes, and similar situations.

This includes instances of domestic violence as well. Therefore, the 1% divorce rate that we are aware of merely scratches the surface of the larger issue at hand.

There is a great deal of stigma about discussing these issues and in Indian households, it is generally expected to manage and adjust with these kinds of things, even if it is harmful.

Wrapping Up:

Having said that, it is important to be mindful of the situations, which calls for compromise and adjustment. Because marriage needs basic understanding from both the individuals.

Marriage is generally romanticized which in reality is not.It is a serious business and people do not talk about the harsh realities of marriage which makes it more difficult.

When people are about to embark on the journey of matrimony, they should not look for happily-ever-after. Rather they should be ready to face the dynamic and ever evolving partnership.

Let us all act sensibly. 

Take care everyone.

                                                                                                                  Sucheta

Disclaimer: I am not an expert or a professional in the field of mental health. This writing is based solely on my experience and observation, and it is not intended to be a substitute for professional advice. If you need help with mental health issues, please contact a qualified professional.