Loneliness: An epidemic
While
majority amongst us experience loneliness from time to time, chronic loneliness
can have a significant negative impact on both physical and mental health.
Many people
mistakenly believe that loneliness is experienced only when one is physically
alone. The truth is, one can feel lonely, even when surrounded by friends,
family and other people.
A modern
society phenomenon: Feeling lonely
Loneliness has turned to an epidemic
in our modern society.
Does that mean, ancient society did not have it? They did, but it did not take
shape of an epidemic.
In ancient
times, or even pre social-media times, people were more connected. They had
meaningful connections. They had thriving neighbourhoods. There were not much
distractions in the form of TV or internet. People used to gather after
respective works, and had chats about issues of interest, like, politics,
sports, etc.
In the modern
society, especially after the advent of social media, isolation has escalated.
The more we connect virtually, the more we disconnect in real life. We witness
every milestone, and be a part of our friends’ journey, through social media. Nothing
is elusive anymore, so the need to pick up the phone and call someone has
significantly diminished. We even lack the enthusiasm to meet up, while coping
with hectic life schedules.
The
neighbourhood has become isolated. The rise of apartments has aggravated this
problem. Everyone comes back after work, and goes straight to home. TV and
internet are the main sources of entertainment now. There is hardly any
exchange of pleasantries in our daily lives, barring few events and parties.
Are you really feeling lonely?
Sometimes, we
don’t even realise, we are experiencing loneliness. We often get immersed in
multiple things, and distract ourselves when we feel empty or upset. We start
withdrawing from society and it turns chronic. The damage of chronic loneliness
can be insidious, often going unnoticed until it is too late. Study has shown, that people who are
lonely, depressed and isolated are three to five times likely to die
prematurely than people who have connections.
Covid-19 and loneliness:
There is no doubt about the fact that Covid-19 pandemic has led to
increase in loneliness. The major component of pandemic control was isolation,
which naturally led to loneliness. The isolation and negativity that were
everywhere, took a toll on our mental health. Even after the pandemic began to
wane, people were initially hesitant to socialise.
Homemakers
and loneliness:
Mothers who
have dedicated their lives to their children are especially vulnerable to
loneliness. Mothers are unable to follow their passion or practice any hobby
due to lack of time. They may not have developed a strong sense of self outside
of their role as a mother. When their children leave home, they may experience
a sense of loss and emptiness, and they may be at risk of depression and
anxiety. This is termed as Empty Nest Syndrome.
Family
members should encourage the mothers to cultivate different hobbies of their
choice, so that, they can have a fulfilling life after their children are grown.
This can improve their mental and physical health. Pursuing things of interests
and engaging oneself in them will also ward off loneliness, and reduce stress
and anxiety.
Final
thoughts:
Loneliness is
a common human experience that can be difficult to deal with. However, it is
important to be aware of the dangers of turning to addictions and bad habits in
an attempt to cope with it. Instead, we should find healthy
ways to deal with loneliness.
Take care
everyone! Sucheta
Disclaimer: I am not an expert or a professional in the field
of mental health. This writing is based solely on my experience and
observation, and it is not intended to be a substitute for professional advice.
If you need help with mental health issues, please contact a
qualified professional.
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