Unrequited love
One sided feelings:
It simply means you love or desire someone but they don’t love you back or feel the same.
It is something we are all familiar with, and many of us have experienced it first-hand. It paints a rosy picture in our minds, making everything seem dreamy.
While movies, poems and songs often romanticize this issue, it is much darker and more complex in reality.
That is what we are going to explore here. It creates a variety of scenarios that make us emotional and attached, but things quickly deteriorate from there, without us even realizing it at the time.
Feelings are natural and often involuntary and emotions are genuine. However, we can choose how to respond to them.
We can either let our feelings spiral into negative emotions, or we can manage them in a healthy way.
Signs of an unrequited love:
While anyone can usually sense whether their feelings are one-sided, here are some signs to be doubly sure:
You put in all the effort.
You are the one who shares every detail of your life, and the other person never does so.
You feel ignored.
You feel anxious.
You feel lonely.
You overlook their flaws and make excuses for their behavior.
How to deal with unrequited love:
If you develop feelings for someone who does not reciprocate those feelings, it is best to distance yourself from them.
Continuing to interact with them can only lead to pain and disappointment.
Here are some reasons why it is important to nip one sided feelings in the bud:
One-sided feelings can be emotionally draining. We may find ourselves constantly wondering and waiting for the other person to reciprocate our feelings, which can lead to unrealistic expectations and damage our self-esteem and emotional well-being.
It can prevent us from moving on in life. Staying connected on a regular basis with the person we have feelings for, while staying friends, can make it difficult to let go.
It can lead to unhealthy behaviors. In some cases, people who develop unrequited feelings may engage in unhealthy practices such as stalking, harassing or even self-harm in an attempt to seek attention.
My friends, please realize that when you continue to pursue someone who does not reciprocate your feelings, you are actually demeaning yourself and hurting yourself.
There is no good that can come from this. As soon as you find out that the other person is not available to you, for whatever reason,please back off.
Preserve yourself and your energy. Save your heart. Conserve your precious feelings. Save your love for the right person, who would be happy to be with you.
If you do not act sooner, you may not realize how emotionally depleted you have become until it’s too late. You will feel exhausted, and your cup will be empty.
You will be a mess in your head and heart. You will feel lost and defeated and you will not be able to give your best to the right person when they come along.
That’s scary, right? But, do not be afraid, there are ways to overcome this. IT IS POSSIBLE.
How to move on from unrequited feelings:
Unrequited relationships can be a deeply traumatic experience. It is essential to move on from such a situation as soon as possible.
Some ways through which this can be overcome are mentioned below.
Immerse yourself in activities that bring you joy.
Allow yourself to feel and embrace your feelings of sadness, anger and disappointment.
Surround yourself with loved ones, but it may be helpful to limit contact with mutual friends.
Maintain distance from the person you have feelings for. Avoid all contact, if possible. If you must interact with them regularly, such as at school, college or work, limit your conversations to only what is essential.
Don’t waste your time and energy worrying about things that might not happen.Instead, focus on the present and what you can control. What’s meant to be, will find its way.
Most importantly, practice self-care and focus on yourself.
Remember, it can bring you into a toxic situation and toxic situations are harmful, so it's important to avoid them at all cost.
It is always best to get out of a toxic situation as soon as possible. If you’ve been stuck in one for a very long period of time and you are not sure as to how to come out of it, there is professional help available.
If needed, you can visit Therapy & Psychiatry | Amaha - Your Mental Health Partner (amahahealth.com)
Save your precious feelings for the right person.
Take care!
Sucheta
Disclaimer: I am not an expert or a professional in the field of mental health. This writing is based solely on my experience and observation, and it is not intended to be a substitute for professional advice. If you need help with mental health issues, please contact a qualified professional.
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